When I was a kid I wanted two very different things:
1) I wanted to get married and have a family and a house and be the mum that makes cupcakes and goes all out for birthday parties etc. etc.
2) I wanted to have a high flying corporate job and live in London, right by Covent Garden, and travel all over the world to negotiate contracts and be my company's representative at some big important meeting.
And neither of those things work together at all 😂 there's no way I could do both!
For a long time after I found out I was pregnant I thought that I'd only get to achieve no.1. It was too late for me to achieve goal no.2 as I had to give up my corporate job when my daughter was born, so no chance of me affording to live in Covent Garden!
I resented being a mother because I hadn't achieved my other goal. I resented achieving one of the biggest things I'd ever wanted. Goal number 1 is crossed off the to do list!
Have you ever done that?
Achieved a big goal but felt bad about it?
From a manifesting point of view that's not the way to do it! Why would the universe give you more of what you want when you weren't happy this time?
But from a "this is not how I planned my life to go" point of view, well that's a different story altogether!
But if it achieved goal no.2 first, would I ever have achieved no.1?
If I'd been living in London, would I ever have met my husband? Would I have fallen in love with him?
I'm a big believer that everything happens for a reason, whether that reason is obvious at the time or not. If I'd not had my daughter when I did, I might not have started my business and then who knows where I'd be right now.
Life and business don't always go the way you expect them to but being ok with how things are right now is the most important thing. There's no point comparing the here and now with how you wanted things to be.
If you still want that goal you didn't achieve, think about how to get to it from where you are instead of wondering why you're not there now.
Or maybe you're like me and when you've achieved the goal you really wanted, the other one doesn't seem important anymore.